Answers to common questions
Starting therapy, or trying something like EMDR, brings up a lot of questions.
Here are the ones I hear most.
If yours isn't here, just ask.
Practical details
My in-person office is at 6521 Creedmoor Road, Suite 206, in Raleigh. I also offer secure virtual sessions for clients located anywhere in North Carolina, though virtual slots are limited. You can find directions here: (Apple Maps) (Google Maps) (Waze) and you can find a map on the contact page.
Both. Many clients come to the Raleigh office, and I offer virtual sessions across North Carolina when that fits your life better. We can decide together which makes the most sense for you. Ketamine Assisted EMDR is offered in-person or online as well.
Sessions range from 55 to 90 minutes, with longer intensive options available, and we decide together what fits your needs and your life. Every rate is listed openly on the Fees & Investment page.
I am an out-of-network provider with all insurance companies, so I do not bill insurance directly. I can give you a superbill, a detailed receipt, that you can submit to your insurer for possible reimbursement, depending on your out-of-network benefits. Working outside of insurance lets me guide your care by what you actually need rather than by what a plan will authorize. You will find questions to ask your insurer on the Fees & Investment page.
That is a fair question, and cost matters. What I offer is depth. I am an EMDRIA Certified EMDR Therapist and Approved Consultant with advanced training in complex and developmental trauma, and I practice EMDR as a complete psychotherapy rather than a technique. I provide deep, specialized care rather than surface-level support. Years of navigating life’s complexities have taught me that true healing cannot be rushed, but it can be accelerated through dedicated, specialized focus. For many people, a focused stretch of specialized work is worth more than a longer course of more general care.
The first sessions are about understanding your history and what you want to change, not diving into the hardest work right away. We will talk through what brings you in, get to know each other, and build a plan together. You set the pace. Click here to schedule a free consultation.
Understanding EMDR
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a comprehensive, integrative psychotherapy that works with your brain's natural ability to heal. It is a relational, goal-oriented, collaborative process between you and your therapist, and it can create lasting change in how you feel about yourself and your life. Click here to learn more about EMDR. You can also learn more at the EMDRIA site.
In EMDR, you briefly bring a distressing memory to mind while engaging in bilateral stimulation, such as guided eye movements, gentle tapping, or sound. This helps your brain reprocess the memory so it loses its emotional charge and stops intruding on the present.
EMDR is well known for treating PTSD, and it also helps with anxiety, depression, grief, phobias, stress, and certain stuck patterns and behaviors. It can ease distressing memories that may not seem dramatic but still shape how you feel day to day.
Yes. EMDR can also help soon after a recent event. I offer an early intervention called R-TEP, the Recent Traumatic Episode Protocol, a kind of emotional first aid for a recent accident, loss, or frightening experience. By gently processing a distressing event while it is still fresh, we can ease its immediate impact and help keep it from settling into something longer lasting. If something has just happened, reach out and mention R-TEP.
No. You stay fully awake, aware, and in control the whole time. EMDR is not hypnosis, and you cannot be made to do or say anything against your will. You are an active participant from start to finish.
What the work feels like
We talk through what is on your mind, identify a memory or belief to focus on, and then use bilateral stimulation while you hold it lightly in mind. I guide the process, but your own brain does the reprocessing.
No. EMDR is not traditional talk therapy. You will bring memories to mind, but you do not have to describe them in depth or relive them out loud. The work focuses on the emotions and body sensations linked to the memory, not on retelling the story.
Revisiting difficult material can bring up discomfort at first, which is a normal part of the process. We build your steadiness and coping skills before we begin reprocessing, and over time the distress eases rather than grows. We always work at a pace you can handle.
Some people feel meaningful relief in a handful of sessions, while complex or long-standing experiences take longer. We will talk openly about timeframe.
You might feel lighter, a little tired, or notice emotions continuing to shift as your brain keeps processing. It helps to be gentle with yourself afterward and leave a little room for rest and reflection. Many clients report having difficulty holding a disturbing memory after successful reprocessing. They don’t forget it, it just doesn’t have the same hold. EMDR transforms how the memory is stored.
Does it work, and is it safe?
Yes. EMDR is supported by a large body of research and is recognized by organizations including the American Psychological Association and the World Health Organization as an effective treatment for trauma and PTSD. The EMDRIA site also has many articles on efficacy.
No. EMDR does not erase anything. Your memories remain, but they lose the emotional intensity that made them feel overwhelming, so they no longer hijack the present.
EMDR is generally very safe, though it is not automatically the right fit for every person or every moment. I assess your readiness and help you build coping skills first, and if EMDR is not the best path for you right now, I will tell you honestly.
If you notice distressing memories, anxiety, or reactions that feel bigger than the situation in front of you, EMDR may help. The simplest way to find out is a free consultation, where we can talk it through together.
Finding the right fit
First, someone you feel comfortable with. Beyond that, look for proper training and ongoing professional standards. EMDRIA™, the EMDR International Association, sets the standards for training and certification in the US. It is fair to ask how often a therapist uses EMDR, where and when they trained, whether they receive ongoing consultation, and whether they pursue continuing education. EMDRIA™ also has a helpful guide on how to find a good EMDR therapist.
Not all EMDR is the same. Many clinicians complete a basic training, but full certification requires years of additional education, supervision, and consultation. Becoming an EMDRIA Certified Therapist™ involves more than 40 hours of specialized training, 10 hours of supervised clinical work, 20 hours of consultation with approved consultants, 30 additional hours of advanced training, and at least two years of practice, a process that typically spans three or more years. For you, that means working with someone who has gone well beyond the basics.
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